Our first encounter with grief may have been at a very young age and we did not remember it, or it was such a gradual meeting, or meetings, that we did not recognize grief for what it are.
Each time we have a loss, we grieve. The grief encounter may have been very brief in length, but it changes us in some way. Perhaps it was a goldfish dying, a cat that ran away, a poor grade on an important test, losing someone’s trust, a best friend moving away, a move yourself, from the home you knew to a different house or town. The circumstance, the age we were, the depth of our investment in it will color the face of our grief.
Every time we’ve met with grief, we altered our thinking, our emotional response or perhaps we repressed our feelings to either meet the expectations of another, or to keep up appearances. Who we are today is an accumulation of life lessons and experiences. Grief is a natural part of life and a companion to all. Grief is always life altering, to some degree.
What we believe about, and how we have dealt with, or failed to deal with, our grief encounters over our lifetime, helps determine how we will respond in the present and future when we meet up with grief again. Meeting with grief is inevitable. If we love, we will grieve. If we have an investment in someone or something and we lose this, we will grieve.
Grief is often seen as a terrible foe. Grief can actually become a friend. All of our time spent with a friend is not guaranteed to be pleasant and pain free. A visit with grief is one that is usually an experience of anguish, but beneath the pain is a process that leads to an opportunity of healing and hope. Grief is the guide to that end result. The relationship we build, while with grief, will have sway to our choices within our walk with grief.
Often times, it is a major loss that puts us in a position where we recognize grief beyond any doubt. The presence of grief is so overwhelming that we have trouble focusing on anything else. That is normal, but so heart wrenching that all else becomes unimportant or unavailable. Normal does not matter, survival mode becomes the daily existence. Grief becomes our enemy, as it seems to rob us of all that is good and right. It steals our reality and replaces it with one that is unacceptable to our heart and minds. How do we exist along side grief and come to the other side of it’s shadowy presence, in a place worth living?
It is possible. It is necessary. As we go through this time together, we will meet grief from beginning to end and hopefully come to a place where, although grief never leaves, it becomes a positive part of who we have become.
Each time we have a loss, we grieve. The grief encounter may have been very brief in length, but it changes us in some way. Perhaps it was a goldfish dying, a cat that ran away, a poor grade on an important test, losing someone’s trust, a best friend moving away, a move yourself, from the home you knew to a different house or town. The circumstance, the age we were, the depth of our investment in it will color the face of our grief.
Every time we’ve met with grief, we altered our thinking, our emotional response or perhaps we repressed our feelings to either meet the expectations of another, or to keep up appearances. Who we are today is an accumulation of life lessons and experiences. Grief is a natural part of life and a companion to all. Grief is always life altering, to some degree.
What we believe about, and how we have dealt with, or failed to deal with, our grief encounters over our lifetime, helps determine how we will respond in the present and future when we meet up with grief again. Meeting with grief is inevitable. If we love, we will grieve. If we have an investment in someone or something and we lose this, we will grieve.
Grief is often seen as a terrible foe. Grief can actually become a friend. All of our time spent with a friend is not guaranteed to be pleasant and pain free. A visit with grief is one that is usually an experience of anguish, but beneath the pain is a process that leads to an opportunity of healing and hope. Grief is the guide to that end result. The relationship we build, while with grief, will have sway to our choices within our walk with grief.
Often times, it is a major loss that puts us in a position where we recognize grief beyond any doubt. The presence of grief is so overwhelming that we have trouble focusing on anything else. That is normal, but so heart wrenching that all else becomes unimportant or unavailable. Normal does not matter, survival mode becomes the daily existence. Grief becomes our enemy, as it seems to rob us of all that is good and right. It steals our reality and replaces it with one that is unacceptable to our heart and minds. How do we exist along side grief and come to the other side of it’s shadowy presence, in a place worth living?
It is possible. It is necessary. As we go through this time together, we will meet grief from beginning to end and hopefully come to a place where, although grief never leaves, it becomes a positive part of who we have become.
About the Author
Pam Clark is a former Hospice worker and homeschool mother of 5. Her site http://www.SteppingThroughGrief.com offers comfort and answers to those who are suffering from grief of all circumstances. Pam Clark P.O. Box 544 Dept. 1008 Lexington, AL 35648 Support@SteppingThroughGrief.com 206-203-1872
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